Let me just say this as it is: wedding day smiles don’t guarantee a peaceful marriage.
There’s this sister I know; beautiful, graceful, heavily involved in church. Her voice? Angelic. Her character? Solid. She didn’t just glow during her wedding prep, she shined. The guy she was marrying? Everyone called him “the gentle giant.”
Soft-spoken.
Prayerful.
Supported her ministry.
Always quoting Scripture.
Tall, well-dressed, and best in romantic captions.
You know the type #GodWhen goals all around.
Their wedding was like something out of a gospel movie.
White roses, anointing oil, emotional vows… the kind that leaves you praying for your own turn. People cried. Instagram clapped. Even the heavens seemed to agree.
But three months after the wedding… things shifted.
She stopped posting.
Her once lively eyes became empty.
And gradually, she disappeared from the choir, from small group, from everything.
At first we thought it was honeymoon bubble, or maybe she was pregnant.
Until she confided in one of the women:
“He slaps me sometimes. Then says he was just angry.
He yells, then prays.
He breaks things… and then buys flowers to say sorry.
I don’t know who I married. I feel like I’m losing myself.”
Ha. My heart broke.
The same man who used to pray with her every night… now punished her with silence for 3 days straight.
The same man who quoted “Love your wife as Christ loves the church”… now used those very verses to manipulate her into silence.
And the worst part?
She stayed… because she didn’t want to “disgrace” the kingdom.
😔 Let That Sink In…
She thought being a good wife meant being a silent victim.
She thought submission meant suffering.
She thought because he prayed, it couldn’t be abuse.
But Christian abuse is still abuse.
Spiritual vocabulary doesn’t cancel emotional violence.
💔 The Real Reason She Spoke Out?
She said one night he pushed her during an argument and she hit her head.
She bled.
He panicked.
Then begged her not to tell anyone… again.
That was her wake-up call.
Because love doesn’t draw blood.
And “Godly marriage” doesn’t mean godless behavior behind closed doors.
📖 Scripture
“Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.” — Colossians 3:19
👀 Look, let’s be real:
Some people are performing holiness while practicing hostility.
Some homes are polished on the outside… but perishing inside.
And some marriages need healing before they need matching outfits.
🛎️ What She’s Doing Now?
She’s in therapy.
She’s surrounded by support.
She’s learning her voice again.
And guess what? She’s no longer afraid of disgrace… because silence was killing her faster.
💬 Real Talk Question:
Have you ever known someone whose “perfect marriage” was a private prison?
Or maybe you have questions, doubts, or stories you’ve never told?
Drop a 💔 or a 🙏🏾 in the comments. You don’t owe silence to anyone.
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