The Girls That Were Wrapped in Grave Clothes: A Wake-Up Call to Every Family

It was alarming Seeing 50 ladies move quietly, shrouded in white, lacking faces and voices , like specters of a future we are gradually allowing to unfold.

This wasn’t a horror movie. It wasn’t a music video either. It was a birthday celebration, specifically that of Obi Cubana’s 50th. And indeed, someone arrived with 50 girls completely enveloped in what resembled burial attire. This wasn’t a cutting-edge fashion choice or a piece of performance art. No, this was the latest manifestation of unsettling flex culture, and it should send chills down the spine of every parent.

What are they turning our girls into? They stood there, arranged like mannequins in a strange ceremony. No identities, no voices, just wrapped, controlled, and displayed. The symbolism is very Crystal clear.

This is our current reality. Am still wondering and questioning how we got here.

How do 50 daughters, each one a cherished child, once a joyful toddler find themselves in this situation?Allowing themselves to be used merely to entertain wealthy men. The answer isn’t found in the glamour of a Lagos party but rather in the intimate settings of living rooms, dining tables, and unspoken conversations.

We Nurture What We Nourish

We cannot afford to raise daughters who are naive, believing their value is tied to the approval of a man. We must not cultivate vulnerable girls, whose silence can be exchanged for a dress, a smartphone, or a luxurious weekend getaway. And heaven forbid we raise impressionable young women who mold themselves not with intention, but under societal pressure.

If we fail to instill strong values in our daughters, the world will eagerly market superficiality to them and label it as success.

Culture Will Shape Them If We Don’t

Let’s face it: the noise of the world is at an all-time high. Platforms like TikTok and Instagram, along with celebrities and influencers, are stepping in to shape our daughters’ values while we find ourselves too occupied, indifferent, or caught up in modernity to impart essential truths. This is how we witness countless young women, either eagerly or naively, compromising their identity and self-respect for the sake of external validation.

If your daughter thinks that being draped in white fabric at a birthday celebration is a mark of privilege, then we have already let her down before she even leaves the house.

This Is About More Than Just One Celebration

This situation transcends Obi Cubana. It’s not solely about the individual who brought them there. It reflects a culture that is failing women and families that are passively observing.

It concerns mothers who shy away from discussing dignity with their daughters.
Fathers who neglect to demonstrate what genuine respect entails.
Schools that focus on algebra yet overlook the importance of identity.
Churches that advocate for purity but fail to emphasize purpose.

We are preoccupied with cultivating attractive appearances when we should be nurturing strong foundations. We need to raise girls who can assert themselves. Girls who can choose to walk away. Girls who understand that if they are to be enveloped in anything, it should be wisdom, purpose, and truth not fabric and shame.
Girls who would boast on what values they could bring to their world and generation rather than red lips, painted face and fabricated or fake contours. Girls who will not pride themselves in foolishness to feel belonged!

My Recommendation

That image should linger in our minds not out of fear, but with a sense of purpose and extreme urgency.

Parents, it’s time to awaken. Our culture is relentlessly striving to capture your daughter’s essence. What actions are you taking in response?

Before she becomes just another face in the crowd, consider these questions:
• Does she understand who she truly is?
• Does she recognize her value?
• Does she feel your watchful presence not as a critic, but as her protector?

Don’t allow the world to shroud your daughter in despair. Instead, envelop her in purpose, identity, and truth.

Because eventually, the music will fade, the lights will dim, and all that will endure is what you have nurtured.

Arise dear families! Wake up to the call for rescue of our children and their future!!
As a family, let’s give our children reason to live and something to live for beyond themselves.

Mrs Princess Obi-Chimezie
Family Life Empowerment Coach