WHAT IF THEIR FAMILIES HAD PLAYED THEIR ROLES BETTER?

If you are still single, have single people around you or you function in a family circle, come close..

This article is not particularly about the 2 parties involved in this situation as am not sure any of the 2 will ever come across this post. But for those it would benefit 👇

Most of our children fall or rise on the foundation of the family!!! 👈Write that down!!

It’s heartbreaking to see the collapse of what could have been a beautiful union. The abrupt cancellation of a wedding especially one that had been eagerly anticipated underscores the critical role that family plays in preparing their children for marriage and empowering them to make informed decisions early on. If families had been more involved and proactive, this painful situation could have been avoided.

The Role of Empowered Families in Preparing Their Children for Marriage:

1. Early Education and Guidance: Families should begin empowering their children to understand the gravity of marriage well before they enter into serious relationships. This early preparation helps them navigate their choices thoughtfully and confidently, ensuring they make decisions that align with their values and goals. I personally recommend families to teach their children marital skills ranging from, becoming the right person, identifying the right person and blending together before they turn 18 and bring Delilah to you for introduction and you start fighting them. But most times we focus on other things and neglect this powerful aspect of every individual “ RELATIONSHIP “
2. Clear Communication and Expectations: Family involvement in open discussions about relationships, marriage, and expectations is essential. By setting a foundation of communication early on, families can help prevent misunderstandings or unrealistic expectations that may arise later, as seen in this situation.
3. Providing Emotional Support and Perspective: The weight of decisions about marriage can be overwhelming, especially when emotions are high. Families play a vital role in offering perspective, emotional support, and guidance to their children, helping them avoid impulsive decisions and ensuring that they enter marriage with maturity and understanding. While family support is limited at adulthood, the right foundation laid would go a long way to help people take the right step from the initial disappointment.
4. Respecting Traditions and Boundaries: Understanding family values, cultural expectations, and personal boundaries is key. When these elements are respected, it prevents unnecessary pressures and allows children to approach marriage from a place of stability and support. Look beyond the person you want to marry, use your microscopic eye!!

Recommendation for the Guy:

Brother, this experience, though painful, offers an opportunity for deep reflection and growth. Take time to understand what has happened, and learn from it.
• Find Strength in the Pain: It’s okay to feel the hurt. This loss is significant, but remember that every painful chapter leads to wisdom and clarity. Use this time to reflect on the lessons learned.
• Reflect and Heal: This experience will guide you toward understanding the importance of healthy communication and family involvement in your future relationships. You deserve a partner who aligns with your vision, values, and dreams. Don’t settle for less.
• Don’t Rush into the Next Relationship: Take time to focus on yourself—rediscover your passions, goals, and aspirations. Building a strong foundation within yourself will prepare you for the right relationship when the time is right.

Trust that with time, healing, and reflection, brighter days will come, and your path forward will be clearer.

For the young lady, I am not here to judge nor am I here to advise you as am sure you have moved on with your life as we are made to believe. I just hope you made this life time decision with clarity and conviction. In the end, the most important thing is to make decisions from a place of self-awareness and authenticity, rather than acting out of pressure or fear. Time for reflection can go a long way in creating healthier future relationships.

This is me seeing things from the eye of a family life empowerment coach.
Families need to awaken and do the work God has assigned them to do. Your family can be more than this. We can do more. We can give our children a better chance to a fulfilling life and lesser struggle than we had to go through.

Let’s walk you through this journey becoming the family after Gods own heart!

The family that flourishes in the midst of breaking families.
The family that understands why they are and living up to it.
The family that impacts, influences and leaves a legacy worthy of praise!!

Let’s raise empowered families, not just children. @highlight

FamilyFirst #ParentingMatters #RealEducation #RaiseThemRight #LifeSkills #ValuesOverGrades

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