My perspective as a family life coach is beginning to make me see a whole lot of things from the angle of “the Family” Let’s get real for a moment.
Before a child learns to spell their name, recite the alphabet, or count to ten… they’ve already learned how to treat people, how to react when they’re angry, and how to respond when things don’t go their way.

And here’s the hard truth—they didn’t learn any of that in school. They learned it at home.

We live in a world that’s quick to blame the education system when things go wrong.
“The schools aren’t teaching values anymore.”
“Our kids don’t know how to manage money, handle rejection, or navigate relationships.”
But stop. Pause. Ask yourself: Whose job was it in the first place?

The First Teacher is Not the School—It’s the Family

Let’s go back to basics.
A child watches how their parents speak to each other—that’s how they learn communication.
They observe how conflicts are resolved at home—that’s how they learn emotional control.
They see how mom treats the cleaner, how dad speaks to the gate man—that’s how they learn respect and dignity. Do we talk about how we talk to them, the children themselves? They internalise and indoctrinate this.

No blackboard. No textbooks. Just raw, everyday life.
That’s the real curriculum.

Real-Life Lessons That Save Lives

Let’s talk about life-saving education. Not CPR or fire drills, but the kind of wisdom that keeps you from wrecking your future.
• A child who’s taught self-worth at home won’t seek validation in dangerous relationships.
• A son who’s taught how to handle failure won’t turn violent when a girl says no.
• A daughter who knows how to process betrayal won’t resort to revenge that ends in tragedy.

We’ve seen it time and again—young people caught up in scandals, violence, and even crime. And we ask, “Where did they go wrong?”
The better question is: Where were the parents?

So next time you talk to your child ask yourself if you would be happy having your child talk disrespectfully to you or someone else. Am sure some of us would be more worried about what people would think of us as failing in raising responsible children rather than putting our children’s welfare, their now weakness resulting from our insensitivity in focus😪

I am not talking yet about how we live a double and pretentious life and think our children are not beholding us😬.
Raising children and building a formidable family in this generation requires a lot from the family rather than the society. We give to the society what we have cooked and processed at home. The state of the society today is to a large extent, the cumulative effect of the failures in our various families!

What do you think we can do to build better children, families and societies?
Kindly comment so we can learn and build a better family together.
Let’s continue this in part 2

Let’s raise an Empowered homes, not just children.

familynestacademy

FamilyFirst #ParentingMatters #RealEducation #RaiseThemRight #LifeSkills #ValuesOverGrades

EmpoweringFamilies

@highlight
It’s Me Again,
Mrs Princess Obi-Chimezie
Family Life Empowerment Coach

Family: The Real Classroom of Life (Part 1)

My perspective as a family life coach is beginning to make me see a whole lot of things from the angle of “the Family”Let’s get real for a moment.
Before a child learns to spell their name, recite the alphabet, or count to ten… they’ve already learned how to treat people, how to react when they’re angry, and how to respond when things don’t go their way.

And here’s the hard truth—they didn’t learn any of that in school. They learned it at home.

We live in a world that’s quick to blame the education system when things go wrong.
“The schools aren’t teaching values anymore.”
“Our kids don’t know how to manage money, handle rejection, or navigate relationships.”
But stop. Pause. Ask yourself: Whose job was it in the first place?

The First Teacher is Not the School—It’s the Family

Let’s go back to basics.
A child watches how their parents speak to each other—that’s how they learn communication.
They observe how conflicts are resolved at home—that’s how they learn emotional control.
They see how mom treats the cleaner, how dad speaks to the gate man—that’s how they learn respect and dignity. Do we talk about how we talk to them, the children themselves? They internalise and indoctrinate this.

No blackboard. No textbooks. Just raw, everyday life.
That’s the real curriculum.

Real-Life Lessons That Save Lives

Let’s talk about life-saving education. Not CPR or fire drills, but the kind of wisdom that keeps you from wrecking your future.
• A child who’s taught self-worth at home won’t seek validation in dangerous relationships.
• A son who’s taught how to handle failure won’t turn violent when a girl says no.
• A daughter who knows how to process betrayal won’t resort to revenge that ends in tragedy.

We’ve seen it time and again—young people caught up in scandals, violence, and even crime. And we ask, “Where did they go wrong?”
The better question is: Where were the parents?

So next time you talk to your child ask yourself if you would be happy having your child talk disrespectfully to you or someone else. Am sure some of us would be more worried about what people would think of us as failing in raising responsible children rather than putting our children’s welfare, their now weakness resulting from our insensitivity in focus😪

I am not talking yet about how we live a double and pretentious life and think our children are not beholding us😬.
Raising children and building a formidable family in this generation requires a lot from the family rather than the society. We give to the society what we have cooked and processed at home. The state of the society today is to a large extent, the cumulative effect of the failures in our various families!

What do you think we can do to build better children, families and societies?
Kindly comment so we can learn and build a better family together.
Let’s continue this in part 2

Let’s raise an Empowered homes, not just children.

#familynestacademy

FamilyFirst #ParentingMatters #RealEducation #RaiseThemRight #LifeSkills #ValuesOverGrades

EmpoweringFamilies

@highlight
It’s Me Again,
Mrs Princess Obi-Chimezie
Family Life Empowerment Coach